If You Could Take A Magic Pill...
17 years ago I was a busy single mother running an international business. My partner left me before my daughter was born. Obviously another relationship was not on the horizon. Not for a while, anyway.
I hadn’t had sex in a long time, 3 years to be exact, and, frankly, I didn’t miss it. Like 70% of women, I had never had an orgasm during partner sex, except when vibrators were involved. Motherhood flooded my brain and body with oxytocin, the bonding hormone. For a while the world did not exist outside of the ocean of baby-love I was floating in.
Eventually, I surfaced into the grown-up reality and started wondering if I would ever have sex again. Yes! I admit, I had my doubts. Or rather a great deal of insecurity, compounded by poor body image and a good dose of daily stress.
What happened next was nothing short of miraculous. I found a teacher. I enrolled in a course on sexuality that combined tantric teachings with energetic practice influenced by tai-chi. It proved to be a game changer. A life-changer, actually. For the first time in my life I experienced orgasm during partner sex. Using the techniques I have learned made my body respond in most amazing ways. I discovered whole body orgasms and other delights I never even dreamed possible.
I was shocked. How did I go from years of non-orgasmic sex to this garden of sexy delights in such a short time?!
And do you know what I found out?
Your body is a magical thing. If you exercise a muscle it responds by getting stronger. If you exercise your brain, it responds by getting smarter, faster, more nimble. If you exercise you sexy spirit, you put in the work – it responds by getting more sexy, by making you more irresistible, more vibrant, more ‘attractive’.
The following year I met Margot Anand* in Bali, where I lived for a while, and hungrily devoured all the books and teachings I could find. My world blossomed. My love life blossomed.
Still, in the back of my head an ominous little voice kept nagging, worrying. “This can’t last”. “You’re getting older”. “It’s all downhill from here”. Depression descended like a black cloud. Immobilizing, murdering joy, stoking fears. Killing desire. It felt like a battle for my life. Finally the demons subsided and I started to rebuild myself again.
The last thing on my mind was sex, but it was also the thing that saved me. I re-started my tantric breathing practice. It sputtered. I started a workout regimen. It was a hard slog. I could not stay motivated. I read books about creating good healty habits, they made perfect sense, but putting them into practice was a daily struggle. One by one new healthy habits bit the dust. I knew all about the tremendous benefits of exercise and meditation, but I just couldn’t keep up the daily practice.
I decided to follow a simple plan. One thing. Every day. Do the practice, put a check mark on the calendar. And DON’T BREAK THE CHAIN. It worked. I used a simple tantric breathing practice for just 10 minutes every day. It did not require any effort, ‘just do it’ was my mantra. My fear of breaking the chain was bigger than my pain and I never missed a day.
It doesn’t sound very sexy, does it? BUT IT WORKS.
So I want to shout this from the rooftop to every woman who (like me so many years ago) has lost her sexy spirit, who, like me, feared getting older, getting left behind by society that worships youth: “NONE of this is true!”
Science backs me up.
We women are so much luckier than men in the sex department. Our most erogenous organ, the clitoris, has twice as many nerve endings as the penis. TWICE! Our orgasmic capacity never wanes. NEVER! We are just as physically capable of experiencing mind-blowing orgasms at 70, 80 and even 90 years of age as we were in our 20’s and 30’s.
And becoming orgasmic is really not such a big stretch of imagination. There are so many ways to achieve the states of bliss. It may take as little as 10 minutes a day of simple practice.
But, IT’S NOT ALL FUN AND GAMES.
This is serious business. Your health is greatly enhanced by your sexual practice. Whether you have a partner or not.
If you could take a magic pill every day that would:
- lower your blood pressure
- improve sleep
- decrease stress levels
- prevent depression
- provide pain relief
- boost your immune system
- stimulate your brain and prevent onset of dementia
- increase pelvic floor strength preventing incontinence
- provide regular blood flow keeping the vaginal walls from thinning
- increase confidence
- and make you more vibrant, more alive and more attractive
– WOULD YOU TAKE IT?
Nurturing your sexy spirit will change your life. I promise.