<![CDATA[50 Is The New Sexy - Blog]]>Tue, 08 Mar 2016 05:02:14 -0500Weebly<![CDATA[How Sex After 50 Makes You Smarter]]>Sun, 06 Mar 2016 16:41:14 GMThttp://www.fiftyisthenewsexy.com/blog/more-sexy-more-brain-powerSEX AFTER 50 MAKES YOU SMARTER  
Want to clear the fog that ocasionally envelops your brain for various reasons, mostly hormonal?
Easy - just have more sexy time!
This is excellent news for us 50-somethings!
Recent study results published in January 2016 in the Journal Age and Aging show a significant association between sexual activity and brain functions such as memory and thinking skills.

This was no small potatoes.  6,800 men and women ranging in age from 50 to 89 participated in a long term study on aging. The results showed that sexually active men and women had higher scores on cognitive and memory tests.  
Dr. Haley Wright of Coventry University, the study's author, used a broad definition of sexual activity - it included having intercourse, masturbating, oral sex and heavy petting.

Other research projects are on the way as follow-ups to this study - analyzing the effects of the frequency and type of sexual activity.  

We, boomers always knew that we were not going to quietly fade away after practically inventing sex in the 60's and 70's, or at least making it mainstream and not a secret talked about behind closed doors. Looks like we're still in the forefront transforming 'Boomer Sex' from a secret never talked about to a subject of countless studies, articles, tv shows and totally ok .  

Hurray for our second half of life, full of wisdom, wonder and fabulous sex!
<![CDATA[How to have a sexy butt without going to the gym!]]>Tue, 09 Feb 2016 18:48:56 GMThttp://www.fiftyisthenewsexy.com/blog/how-to-have-a-sexy-butt-without-going-to-the-gymI haven’t been to the gym in a long time. No, I have not given up on personal fitness.  I simply incorporate fitness into everything I do. All day. Every day.
I believe, and science proves me right, that human body thrives best when it moves. That’s why walking is soooo good for us. And sitting is soooo bad. But if you want to have a shapely butt, at any age, you need to do more than walking.
Few simple movements incorporated into your day can make a very big difference!

First thing upon waking up, before getting out of bed do several butt bridges. Lying flat on your back, bend your knees and place your feet flat on the bed. Lift your buttocks and torso up into a straight line with your thighs. Hold for 3 breaths and gently lower. Repeat 10 times. This will not only work your gluteous (butt) muscles, but will also get your energy moving and gently wake up your body. You’re already flat on your back, take advantage of it!
 Up and on to breakfast!  The kitchen is full of opportunities to practice squats. Reaching down into the fridge veggie drawer for fruit to put on your cereal? Don’t bend over. Bending stresses your lower back. Instead – bend your knees and squat. Make sure your knees don’t extend forward over your ankles. Push your butt backwards to keep balance and pulse up and down about 10 inches 4 or 5 times. You’ve just given your gluteals an amazing workout. 
Ever tried doing 30 squats? It’s one heck of a workout.  Let’s do the math.  If you do squats or pulsing squats every time you reach under your desk, into low drawers, to pick up something off the floor, or get to those low kitchen cupboards – you will end up doing way more than 30 on a DAILY BASIS. Just think what this will do for your glutes!  10 times better than going to the gym and doing 30 squats twice a week!
 Once you get into the habit of squatting instead of bending – your butt muscles will start getting stronger every single day!

Another thing I do is use a stand-up desk. This keeps my body balancing, keeping the leg muscles working. To spice things up I do a few ‘curtsy lunges’ once in a while.  Just like curtsying to the queen, step one leg back and curtsy as low as you can. Repeat with the other leg. 
By the way, ​I don’t stand all day long.  I have a back-up stool to lean or perch on when standing becomes too much.

Take stairs whenever you can instead of the elevator. They provide a workout that  returns maximum value in minimum time, with low impact. Take the elevator down, because  there is no health benefit in going down the stairs and your knees will take a pounding.

There you have it! There is nothing more powerful than small habits that yield big results!
<![CDATA[Sexy at 69? Internet Goes Crazy!]]>Thu, 04 Feb 2016 21:51:39 GMThttp://www.fiftyisthenewsexy.com/blog/can-you-be-sexy-at-69 Sexy at 69? Internet Goes Crazy! Picture
So the world can't handle Susan Sarandon sexy looking cleavage at age 69.
Nasty comments erupted on Twitter within minutes of Sarandon's appearance at the Screen Actors' Guild (SAG) Awards this week.

Among them hilariously misplaced references to "SAG"... wink, wink, and "tacky". Whoa, nothing saggy there about her damn nice-looking breasts and nothing tacky about the classic white Max Mara suit she wore!  Misogyny dies hard, it seems.  And it appears even harder for some people to accept a woman over 60 looking, feeling and acting like a sexual being. 

What on earth are they thinking?  That we should just roll-over and hide, nah, disappear, when we turn a 'certain age'? No surprise there, I remind myself that for most of my younger years I lived under similar delusion.  All things sex are just going to slow down, go south, and go away after 50! 

Not only was I, thankfully, horribly wrong, but the reality turns out to be quite the opposite.  Thousands of women report best sex of their lives well into their 60's, 70's and beyond.  This has been a rather well-kept secret, unfortunately, and the truth needs to be told.  

No one shamed Patrick Stewart when he posted a  picture of himself showing fabulous abs at 75! Seventy five!!!

No, the internet was full of awe and praise!  "Rock Solid", "Hot Septuagenarian" screamed the headlines about the actor famous for portraying Captain Jean-Luc Picard in Star Trek. 

Do you see the problem?  Can we talk about it? 
Because the only way this horrible treatment of women is going to change will be if more of us speak up and shame the shamers!
Go on, click share and make sure you speak your mind!  
Solidarity sisters!  We will all be 69 one day!​

<![CDATA[Lucky 13th! International Day Of Self-Love]]>Wed, 03 Feb 2016 00:53:22 GMThttp://www.fiftyisthenewsexy.com/blog/who-you-gonna-loveWHO YOU GONNA LOVE?
For a day that’s all about love, February 14th sure leaves a lot of single people feeling alone and a lot of people in relationships feeling disappointed.

"Looking for love in all the wrong places" is a cliche, but how many of us look for love outside of ourselves, when the first place you gotta look is inside!  
You have to fall in love with yourself a little bit, in a good way. Of course, we all know someone who is a narcissistic asshole, and who wants to be like that!? But know that deep down he/she is no narcissist at all – just deeply insecure and overcompensating.

Self-love is a whole other bowl of cherries. When you embrace it - it feels every bit as delicious as falling in love with the man of your dreams.
I admit that for me it was a struggle. If only I had known this little secret ritual it would have been so easy! 

Daily Magic Mirror Ritual

Look into your eyes standing in front of a mirror and say to yourself out loud “I accept myself unconditionally right now. I love you. You are fabulous.”
Look at yourself with truly loving eyes, the way that you would lovingly look at a kitten, a puppy or your child.
Appreciate your good points. Your warm smile, the color of your eyes, the strength of your arms.
Trust me, it will feel silly, awkward and a little ridiculous. Make no mistake. This is a serious battle of wills with your inner critic.
You will win only if you do this exercise regularly, every day. In fact you can do it every time you go to the bathroom and look in the mirror. It’s a beautiful habit to develop, powerfully healing and transformational.

We women are constantly reminded of our imperfections. If we accepted and loved our bodies, several billion dollar industries would go out of business overnight!
Billion dollar advertising dedicated solely to making us feel inadequate, not young enough, not pretty enough, not slim enough. This messaging is everywhere and it has a powerful effect on every one of us without exception. 95% of us, women, have negative body image. It’s a known fact that even the most beautiful models fret and worry about the smallest faults.
This body-image battle is almost impossible to win because no matter how many pounds you lose, there will always be something else to fix.
So you might as well start loving the hell out of yourself! And that’s what the MAGIC MIRROR exercise will do for you, guaranteed.
Nothing will make you feel more beautiful, sexy and confident than loving yourself, body and spirit.  What’s more – it will project out into the world and you will be seen as more beautiful, sexy and confident.

​I promise..

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<![CDATA[If You Could Take A Magic Pill...]]>Wed, 27 Jan 2016 16:34:23 GMThttp://www.fiftyisthenewsexy.com/blog/if-you-could-take-a-magic-pill

If You Could Take A Magic Pill...


​17 years ago
I was a busy single mother running an international business. My partner left me before my daughter was born.  Obviously another relationship was not on the horizon. Not for a while, anyway.

 I hadn’t had sex in a long time, 3 years to be exact, and, frankly, I didn’t miss it. Like 70% of women, I had never had an orgasm during partner sex, except when vibrators were involved. Motherhood flooded my brain and body with oxytocin, the bonding hormone. For a while the world did not exist outside of the ocean of baby-love I was floating in.

Eventually, I surfaced into the grown-up reality and started wondering if I would ever have sex again.  Yes! I admit, I had my doubts.  Or rather a great deal of insecurity, compounded by poor body image and a good dose of daily stress.

What happened next was nothing short of miraculous. I found a teacher. I enrolled in a course on sexuality that combined tantric teachings with energetic practice influenced by tai-chi.  It proved to be a game changer. A life-changer, actually.  For the first time in my life I experienced orgasm during partner sex. Using the techniques I have learned made my body respond in most amazing ways. I discovered whole body orgasms and other delights I never even dreamed possible. 

I was shocked. How did I go from years of non-orgasmic sex to this garden of sexy delights in such a short time?!
And do you know what I found out?  
Your body is a magical thing. If you exercise a muscle it responds by getting stronger.  If you exercise your brain, it responds by getting smarter, faster, more nimble. If you exercise you sexy spirit, you put in the work – it responds by getting more sexy, by making you more irresistible, more vibrant, more ‘attractive’.

The following year I met Margot Anand* in Bali, where I lived for a while, and hungrily devoured all the books and teachings I could find.  My world blossomed.  My love life blossomed.
Still, in the back of my head an ominous little voice kept nagging, worrying. “This can’t last”.  “You’re getting older”. “It’s all downhill from here”. Depression descended like a black cloud. Immobilizing, murdering joy, stoking fears.  Killing  desire.  It felt like a battle for my life. Finally the demons subsided and I started to rebuild myself again.

The last thing on my mind was sex, but it was also the thing that saved me.  I re-started my tantric breathing practice.  It sputtered.  I started a workout regimen. It was a hard slog. I could not stay motivated.  I read books about creating good healty habits, they made perfect sense, but putting them into practice was a daily struggle. One by one new healthy habits bit the dust. I knew all about the tremendous benefits of exercise and meditation, but I just couldn’t keep up the daily practice. 

I decided to follow a simple plan. One thing. Every day. Do the practice, put a check mark on the calendar. And DON’T BREAK THE CHAIN.  It worked. I used a simple tantric breathing practice for just 10 minutes every day. It did not require any effort, ‘just do it’ was my mantra.  My fear of breaking the chain was bigger than my pain and I never missed a day.  

It doesn’t sound very sexy, does it? BUT IT WORKS.
So I want to shout this from the rooftop to every woman who (like me so many years ago) has lost her sexy spirit, who, like me, feared getting older, getting left behind by society that worships youth:  “NONE of this is true!” 

Science backs me up.
We women are so much luckier than men in the sex department.  Our most erogenous organ, the clitoris, has twice as many nerve endings as the penis. TWICE!  Our orgasmic capacity never wanes. NEVER! We are just as physically capable of experiencing mind-blowing orgasms at 70, 80 and even 90 years of age as we were in our 20’s and 30’s.
And becoming orgasmic is really not such a big stretch of imagination. There are so many ways to achieve the states of bliss. It may take as little as 10 minutes a day of simple practice.
This is serious business. Your health is greatly enhanced by your sexual practice. Whether you have a partner or not.
If you could take a magic pill every day that would:
  • lower your blood pressure
  • improve sleep
  • decrease stress levels
  • prevent depression
  • provide pain relief
  • boost your immune system
  • stimulate your brain and prevent onset of dementia
  • increase pelvic floor strength preventing incontinence
  • provide regular blood flow keeping the vaginal walls from thinning
  • increase confidence
  • and make you more vibrant, more alive and more attractive

Nurturing your sexy spirit will change your life.  I promise.